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Life has a funny way of introducing us to the most incredible people when we least expect it. As we navigate Ross’ journey with uveal melanoma, we meet individuals at each step. Their stories, kindness, and energy have touched our hearts. We wanted to share a few of those special moments and remind ourselves (and you!) of the beautiful human connections that keep us grounded and supported. Mr. Fred Rogers was famously quoted as saying, “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’” We have found so many helpers along the way. This is a blog post dedicated to them.

Flight to Charlotte: Kathy & Frank Hollingsworth

On our flight from New Orleans to Charlotte, we were seated next to Kathy Hollingsworth and her husband, Frank. This husband and wife team run a company called Innovative Interchange. They help people discover their unique worth and foster collaboration within teams. What an incredible mission—to help others recognize their value and build a more harmonious workplace! It was a gift to sit next to Kathy and hear about the positive impact their company is making. People like Kathy and Frank remind us that, despite all the challenges in the world, there are people out there quietly empowering others to grow.

Elevator Encounters: The Brothers

During one of our elevator rides at the Mayo Clinic, we met two brothers. They’ve been coming to the clinic since they were kids. One brother had his first surgery at 13, and now in their 60s or 70s, they continue their journey. One shared a heartwarming story. As a child, he conducted his own social experiment. He said “hello” to 100 people in the Mayo tunnels. Out of 100, 85 responded. He gave grace to the remaining 15. He assumed they were preoccupied with their own worries or worries about a loved one. The lesson? We all carry something heavy, and extending kindness whenever we can goes a long way.

The Receptionist with the Mountain Tattoo

At the clinic check-in, we met a receptionist with a beautiful mountain tattoo. Ross complimented her ink. She shared the touching story behind it. Her son, stationed at Camp Pendleton, had drawn the mountains from his barracks. On a recent family trip, they all had the drawing tattooed as a symbol of support for him. These moments remind us of the depth of family bonds. Love finds creative ways to stay connected. This happens even when miles apart.

Waiting Room Comfort: Cooper

We now know “scanxiety” is a real thing. Waiting for Ross’ chest and abdomen CT scans had us feeling a bit on edge. It’s been about four weeks since Ross’ last scan so we were hopeful but also anxious. One of the risks of any type of cancer is metastatic disease. That’s where the primary tumor spreads to another location through the lymphatic system or blood stream. It makes the cancer a bit more challenging to treat since the patient is fighting multiple areas of cancer instead of a localized one. Enter Cooper, a sweet little white terrier we met in the waiting room. He came right up to Ross. He emerged from underneath his owner’s wheelchair as soon as we sat down. It was as if he knew we needed some comfort. With our own fur baby, Lebowski, back home (we miss our 115-pound Great Dane more than words can express!), Cooper’s calming presence was such a gift. His owners said Cooper rarely approaches others. Yet, he stayed by Ross for about 15 minutes receiving love and giving sweet puppy kisses. It was as if he knew we needed a reminder to be present, just like dogs always are. Cooper was a little beacon of peace during an anxious time.

The Caring Nurse

We also had a nurse whose kindness was unmatched. She worried about her son, David, who was riding out Hurricane Milton in Florida. Yet, she still extended so much care and empathy toward Ross. She took the time to make sure he was comfortable. She even offered to let us try out a new camera at the clinic. How could we say no? For science, of course! It’s moments like these when strangers, despite their own worries, extend such grace and humanity that truly lift our spirits.

The Power of Kindness

“Minnesota Nice” is no myth. From friends to complete strangers, we’ve felt an overwhelming sense of support and connection. Every interaction, no matter how brief, has shown us that kindness is alive and well in the world.

Today: Meeting Dr. Dalvin

Today is a big day! We finally get to meet Ross’ new ocular oncologist, Dr. Lauren Dalvin. We’re both list-makers and planners, so having a clear plan for next steps gives us a sense of calm. We’re eager to learn more about Ross’ treatment options. We also want to understand the Darovasertib study. And, of course, there’s “Lenny”—the tumor that’s become an uninvited guest in our lives. We have one more day of appointments ahead. We’re feeling incredibly grateful to be here. We are prepared to receive more information about Ross’ situation.

Final Thoughts

Everyone we meet is walking their own path, navigating their own struggles and triumphs. Sometimes, our paths intersect in unexpected ways, bringing color, awareness, and even a little light to our own journey. Thank you for being part of this chapter with us. We love you all, and we’re so thankful for the support, prayers, and positive energy you’ve sent our way.

Last day of appointments for this week — let’s do this! Stay present, be kind, and remember: every person we meet is a gift.

With love and gratitude,
The Traveling Withers